The Good and Bad of being Single

Hi, guys, I'm back again. So this month we are celebrating Women's Month and I can't just leave behind that being an empowered woman not afraid of taking risk is what I've become.

Stating that I've been wanting to write this post so long ago to let the world know that is pretty hard for us women to be single these days.

Started from bottom

People close to me know that since I was a little kid I was a sassy girl. For me going to high school was awful. I was bullied most of my high school years mainly because of my skin color or because it was easier to tease the nerdy kid with issues. Growing up I blossomed into a pretty looking girl, but all the bullying made me shy and an insecure young girl. Until I had my first boyfriend and my heartbreak, I tasted the bittersweet of being in love and also being physical and psychological abuse. Then I became Single!!!!

All The Single Ladies

It first started as a feeling of freedom that transformed into a feeling of loneliness and out of a blue into a feeling of empowerment. That ended as fast as it came because I was 19 then and guys were starting to notice me as one of those good looking girls. I guess I wasn't mature enough back then that guys that talk sweetly to you were just looking for SEX and they didn't mean everything they ever told you 

So yes we make a couple of mistakes like this in our early 20s and is totally okay that and age for self-discovery. Don't let no one belittle you because you are not perfect, no one is.

Pros and Cons

Going back to the sassy me well I just grew up into a little bit of a provocative person. For me, there's nothing against being sexy, provocative, showy, and even risky. 

That was one of the parts that all of my boyfriends hated the most. They didn't like me dressing certain ways, talking to other guys, or even posting sexy pictures of myself. My family as restricted catholic as they are will always against it.

Now that I'm 25 and single I starting breaking stigmas I like showing my body that's about it. And being single gives me all that freedom I want and whichever guy that comes next have to know that and just accept that.

Being single gave me time to start writing, working out, focusing on my self because I'm #1. People may say I'm a little bit narcissist but I just love having time for myself.

All this self-appreciation and freedom comes with challenges. Now I'm just a sexual object, that's mainly it. The guys that talk to me nowadays are only interested in how they can have me without having strings attached, the perfect relationship they say these days. You'll probably think Maria it is your fault for putting yourself out there like that. Maybe. What I really don't understand why I have to stop being me to find nice guys or be treated differently. I have plenty other qualities that guys just don't see because they just love how I look physically look and that's it.  I know many of my girls reading this might be standing where I'm standing and they know how hard it is to just shoosh wrong guys away.

Hang on you are OK

With this short capsule, I just wish to empower women to keep being their own self, is not ok to change because society tells you that you are dating too much or that taking sexy pictures is wrong too. If you don't know our society is ruled by men which are always trying to oppress the way we as women act, conduct, and even think. Being a good girl means sitting still and looking pretty that makes us the perfect trophy wife or the perfect type of girl. 

Don't change because a man tells you are too much of this and that. The man that really wants to be with will love every curve and every sexy aspect of you.

Women Empowerment starts with being happy with who are and embracing every that makes you, you.

"I'm tough, I'm ambitious, and I know exactly what I want. If that makes me a bitch, okay." ―Madonna

Yours truly,

Maria